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Why It Feels Inconsistent (But Isn’t Random)
Inconsistency is often treated like a mystery.
But most of the time, it’s a threshold.
There’s a version of closeness he can do easily: chemistry, affection, presence that feels effortless. In that range, he’s real. He’s kind. He’s there.
Then closeness crosses an invisible line—definition, vulnerability, emotional consequence—and something in him shifts. Not because you did something wrong, but because the bond starts asking for a kind of participation that costs him.
That’s when you feel the split:
the man who leans in… and the man who goes quiet.
From your side, the contract forms as adaptation. You learn which version of you keeps him open. You become careful with timing. You start translating silence as information.
It can make you feel “too much.”
But what you’re actually doing is trying to live inside an agreement you never got to read.
