Loving the Wrong Person? 7 Signs to Tell if it’s True Love (and Marry the Right Guy My Dear)

How often do you find that relationships are a struggle for you? Maybe you feel that you have never met the ‘right’ person or you have always loved the wrong person? Perhaps you are currently with someone who you perceive as not ‘the one’?

When you are in love with the wrong person, there are many signs that may not be visible to you unless they were explicitly pointed out to you.

As I will be sharing some signs that you are in love with the wrong person, let’s first take a look at ways to manifest love with the right person.

If you’re curious about the nature of your relationship, check out our article about the different types of relationships and how to deal with them.

7 Ways To Know You’re In Love With The Wrong Person

When you are with the wrong person, it can be hard to recognize it and you may wonder what to watch out for.

A variety of reasons can cause relationships to fail, but it could also be that you are entering relationships with people you are not compatible with.

There are some signs to look out for that can help you identify if you have fallen in love with the wrong person.

1. It’s hard for you to be yourself around them.

If you find yourself acting differently than normal around your partner, then you may be with the wrong person.

It may be that you are afraid of being judged or criticized by your partner, but if they are not happy with the person you are then they are probably not right for you.

Being in a relationship means accepting each other for who they are and for whatever faults they may have.

A person who changes who you are can be a warning sign that they aren’t the right person for you.

You should think about what you want your relationship to be like and if you should be with this person if you find that you are constantly watching what you say or do around your partner, or your friends comment on the change.

2. You forget to consider them when planning your future

Whenever you are in a happy, healthy relationship and you are imagining your future, it is highly likely that your partner is also in it.

Perhaps you would like to move in together, get married, or even take a holiday together.

In contrast, if you are with the wrong person, you may not consider them when planning your future. Maybe you are unsure whether you will be together years from now, or maybe you just don’t see yourself with them down the road (marriage, moving in together).

Taking a closer look at your relationship and trying to understand why you don’t plan to include this person in your future may help you discover if this person is right for you.

3. It’s hard for you to handle your problems.

Relationships are very likely to encounter problems at some point, and the most important thing is to learn how to deal with them. It’s a good sign if you and your partner can talk things out and understand each other.

In contrast, if you are continuously arguing and cannot resolve things with your partner, this may indicate the wrong person for you.

Unless you can communicate effectively and solve problems together, you may want to consider whether your relationship is going to last.

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4. The Relationship Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself

It’s completely normal to have days when you don’t feel confident or positive about yourself, because we all have insecurities and doubts about ourselves. Nonetheless, if you are in a healthy relationship, your partner will support you and make you feel good about yourself.

If your partner judges you constantly or undermines your confidence, the relationship is likely unhealthy. It is likely that you will feel positive when you are in a great relationship and spend time with your partner.

A partner who makes you feel insecure or judged may be the wrong person for you.

5. Your friends and family are worried about you and your relationship

In most cases, your family and friends know you best and can also observe things objectively. When they start showing concern about your relationship, maybe it’s worth opening your mind and listening to them.

It might be a good idea to ask them why they are not sure about your partner, and talk to them about it if there is a reason for this. You can use this to determine what you should do and what is the best thing for your relationship.

Friends and family may also resonate with how you feel about your relationship, so it’s best to stay open-minded.

Is it a struggle to convince him to spend time with you?

Understanding males on a much deeper emotional level is the key to finding a solution. With a few subtle comments you might make to him, you can actually modify the main reason why men react in this way.

Learn how to become his top priority in this free video by Relationship Psychologist James Bauer.

6. There’s no trust in your relationship.

A healthy relationship is based on trust, and you should be able to trust each other. Normally, you’d talk to your partner about a problem and resolve it. Therefore, instead of accusing your partner when you are uncertain about something, you should resolve the matter.

When you often feel that your partner is lying to you or sneaking around behind your back, this is not a good sign. Furthermore, it doesn’t help if you can’t resolve the issue or talk about it with them.

If this is the case in your relationship, you might want to consider what you want to do about it and if you should remain with this person.

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7. Both of you don’t know how to make each other feel loved.

Relationships can sometimes be difficult and you may need to work on certain things to be happy. Getting along in a healthy, happy relationship involves both of you learning how to make the other person feel loved.

If, however, you feel that you just can’t seem to make your partner feel loved, no matter how hard you try, or they can’t do the same for you, there may be a problem.

It may be a sign that you are not right for each other if, even after talking to each other, you still can’t work out how to make each other feel loved.

How do you attract the right love?

This article may have made you realize that you are attracted to the wrong types of people. When trying to find ‘the one’, many people go through different relationships.

If you are still struggling to find that special someone, or if you need a special help with attracting the guy you’re looking for –or make him seriously commit to your relationship– then check out this insightful video tutorial.

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